Comments on: He Said/She Said: Putting Out on the First “Date”

By: Don

Don — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 01:44:52 +0000

I WANNA GET LAID! WHY DON’T WOMEN GET “NATURAL” WITH ME?

By: Kari

Kari — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 01:50:37 +0000

BECAUSE YOU TYPE IN ALL CAPS. AND USE “NATURAL” IN AN EXTREMELY ILL FITTING CONTEXT.

Katy Perry says it best Donnie Baby: If you want me, then stop begging I don’t put out for charity.

By: Darcy

Darcy — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 02:16:28 +0000

I’m a easy going girl who doesn’t really feel awful about sex on the first date. But I’ve decided to stop doing that with guys I might actually want to date, because as awful as this sounds, when it’s too easy, they just don’t care, and I’ll always be that girl he doesn’t like enough to date, but likes enough to fuck.

By: daylie

daylie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 03:12:57 +0000

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By: Robert

Robert — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 02:07:42 +0000

I meet a woman in Clearwater, we both were drinking. After the tiki bar drink we tried to walk on the beach. She fell down and then told me to sit. The next thing I know her tongue is down my throat and we’re making out on the beach. After about 30min we head back to my room. What a wild night. This was the first time I meet this woman, and I’m glad I did. Putting out on the first ? ok we didn’t actually make it to a first date. It was something we both needed. It was a relaxer and a fun time. She left at 5:30am and I said goodbye and watched her leave. Of Course it was my last day on vacation and couldn’t take her back, She lived in England, She to was on vacation.

By: Bryan

Bryan — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 21:22:17 +0000

Not all guys (but yes, most) will disregard you just because you put out on the first date. I have have a few girlfriends that lasted awhile even after letting me in on the first date/encounter/whatever. It all depends on the situation. I know that I can be a little more convincing than most guys and have taken advantage of that in the past, but if the girl seemed to be honestly digging me rather than just trying to ‘get some from the manwhore’, then that can get me interested in getting to know her better. I say, if it feels right, then it is right and you should flow with it. If it seems that he is only interested in what’s inside your panties, then take it for what it is and thank him for a nice evening with your clothes on because you will most likely be discarded after he gets what he wants.

By: ross

ross — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 04:55:32 +0000

Ok, so the guy is pretty accurate in this conversation, and the girl’s side is slightly neurotic.

Look sister, if the woman in this relationship is going to a bar, she should realize that the guy is there to hook up, and if she is perceived to be worth it, she can definitely use the first date to screen the dude and see if he even knows the meaning of the phrase “delayed gratification”. Fuck that “other girls will screw him and I’ll lose out” shit, you’re selling yourself horribly short.

You don’t have to be a gay guy or anything less than a decent man (not boy, man, big difference) to know that rushing a girl into sex is a recipe for disaster, she’ll probably feel slightly (or more, cheap and used and you’ll be playing catchup forever after.

Best advice, girls, don’t fuck on the first date. Guys, be smart enough and man enough to assure her that she’s special and worth waiting for, and everyone will be much better off. The measure of a man is not his strength and ability to rip her panties off, but his ability to do just that and control to wait until she’s ready to have him be such a man.

BTW, this is NOT the advice of someone who’s inexperienced, I’ve never treated the female of our species with anything less than respect and admiration and boy has it paid off in mutually respectful sex and so far a wonderfully fruitful 15 year relationship with the woman of my dreams.

Keep on looking for Mr./Mrs. Right, not Mr./Mrs. Right NOW.

Ross

By: Ectara

Ectara — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 01:57:58 +0000

I agree with the “He” side. I wouldn’t like a girl that puts out on the first night at all, she would seem a little on the immoral side. If guys are going out to a bar for women, what do you expect to find? Try going somewhere you will meet a guy that is serious. You can discredit me as you see fit, as I don’t want to have sex before marriage; if the relationship can’t even move forward without it, we don’t really connect at all.