“I’m so jealous” my friend confided after I had told her about my most recent spectacular sexperience. “I can’t orgasm from sex.”
What?! No orgasm? From sex? Is that some sort of really mean trick? Is Mother Nature f–king with her? I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Clearly this was not normal; she should find a new man, or talk to a doctor, or something.
But it is normal. Really normal.
Like, 75% of women, normal.
In fact, my uncanny ability to “thoroughly enjoy” sex (multiple times, on some occasions) seems to be the abnormal in this situation. I am a member of a very exclusive group; the Orgasmers, if you will.
So, I am curious. Are you a card carrying member, or, like my unfortunate friend, are you a member of the silent (in bed) majority?
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I voted no, even though it’s happened before. Most of the time, I need some action beforehand, but I’ve had a 2nd during sex probably… 5% of the time? Weird to apply a percentage to this, but you know. It’s not easy like it is for some people, but it can be done.
Wanted to add that you make this sound like not being able to orgasm during INTERCOURSE means that there’s a big problem, or that sex is somehow substandard if you’re not getting off when the P’s in the V. It doesn’t mean that those women aren’t having orgasms, just that they are likely having their fun in another way before topping it off with still-enjoyable sex.
I am sure that sex is still fun and great and exciting, but I can’t imagine being told that I can bake a cake, lick the bowl, enjoy the smell as it bakes but then not be able to eat any DAMN CAKE.
most girls need action before hand, intense foreplay, direct stimulation, etc… a lot of times the men are to blame, keep your man well manicured and teach him how to please.
furthermore, a lot of girls that i know that can’t O simply can’t relax, and are insecure/uncomfortable. that has a lot to do with everything…
try alcohol. it makes everything better (or at least look like it)
I have orgasmed during sex before, but only once ever. :/ It’s still fun though.
It’s fairly simple, though horribly annoying. The direct pleasure points for most girls are the clitoris and G-spot. For guys, it’s pretty much their entire member. So they can get off fairly easily, but if they want their girlfriends to enjoy it just as much…they’re gonna have to put in a bit of effort and hit/find those two spots.
I used to not be able to orgasm from sex, but then I just kept trying and after six months of steady sex I figured out what I liked/waht I didn’t and it’s been easier since then.
I’ve only recently started having sex and even though I don’t orgasm, I always feel so damn close! I just don’t know what else to do to tip me over…
i haven’t orgasm during sex at all :/
granted, i’ve only had sex around six times or so, but still.
my guy wants to go down on me, but i’m really nervous about that; i feel too inactive and passive, and what about taste?
and how can you get clitoris stimulation while having sex? it seems to me that it takes succcchhh a long time for me to get there, so i get all nervous that he’s getting bored, and stop him, though it’s pretty much the only way i can orgasm…
thanks guys.
When I’ve had girlfriends who couldn’t orgasm during intercourse, I’ve given them the following ‘assignment’…masturbate once a day. It doesn’t always make it so they can orgasm during intercourse, but it does free them up and creates a dialogue about sex. Sometimes, someone doesn’t know ‘how’ to orgasm or what it feels like, or what she likes. I know this sounds crazy, but it’s true.
I’ve never orgasmed - at all. I’ve been really close a couple times before but have made the guy stop because I just don’t know what to expect. I tend to get close equal parts intercourse and foreplay.
Yeah I’ve gotten close and faked, but just can’t quite have one… even though I feel close.
lyra - if your man doesn’t know how to stimulate your um…clit.. during intercourse, then I suggest you partake in viewing an adult film…no joke.
I dont think the results of this pole will come out accurately. I mean its safe to say that a majority of girls on this site are very sexual and aware of thier bodies. And sexual awar people have more orgasms than shy girls who dont masterbate.
I learned how to make myself cum, before a guy was able to do it. How sad. It is clit stimulation for me but, I don’t like to feel too intense, just feels so uncomfortable.
I have had orgasms during sex (most of the time, even), but it does require some direct stimulation. Either someone’s hand or uh, him slamming down. Never from penetration alone.
I’ve played with myself before I began to have sex, so I knew how an orgasm feels like. When I was finally sexually active, I couldn’t understand why my guy couldn’t get me off from penetration alone. I thought to myself, why isn’t this anything like the movies?! It bothered me that he would always get his happy ending while I couldn’t. It took over a month for him to get it right, and I have gotten my O’s nearly every single time we do it. It’s called MULTITASKING. He’s gotta be able to: stimulate the clitoris + penetrate. Usually he can achieve this when he’s using his hand to stimulate and using his P to penetrate. Pretty simple concept, but hard for most guys to realize.
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