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Dating a younger man may be taboo, but people have been doing it for years. Mrs. Robinson? Donna Martin and David Silver? Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher?
Obviously, they are doing it for a reason.
Got a younger dude? Friends making fun of you for robbing the cradle?
Ignore them and keep that boy around! Here are 5 great reasons why:
1. More energy.
Okay, so this isn’t true for all younger guys, but they generally DO have more energy and enthusiasm than their more aged counterparts. That means they’ll usually be happy to try new things, they’ll expend a lot of energy doing things to impress you, and they won’t necessarily be as quick to complain as older guys will.
2. Youthful exuberance and enthusiasm.
Remember: to a younger guy, you are “the older woman.” Even if they deny it, the relationship will always be a little bit like The Graduate to them. They’ll be happy to have you, and they’ll brag to all their buddies that they’re dating you. Instead of being just another girlfriend, you’ll be a point of pride.
3. You can take the lead.
Sometimes, it’s true that the older you are, the more experienced you are. You can take that in whatever context you want, but it’s true for a variety of things. If you’re a college graduate and your guy is still in his senior year, you can give him great grad-school or job-searching advice. Basically, the lead is there for you to take in the relationship.
4. They’ll be loyal.
This is also an arguable point, but especially if you’re a lot older than the guy (say, five years or more), you can bet he’s not dating you just for kicks. Odds are, there’s something about you (yes, the essence of you—not your looks, and not your cash or job security) that he likes, and that’s important for building loyalty in a long-lasting relationship.
5. They die later.
Is this morbid? Because it’s true. If you’re dating a younger guy and you feel like there’s a possibility the two of you might stay together for a long, long time, you won’t necessarily have to worry about being a widow at the age of 50 because your dude was 20 years older than you. Women live longer than men. Date a younger guy. ‘Nuff said.
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So a 20 year old guy with a 25 year old woman is a huge age difference? Really? I don’t know. That doesn’t sound like a huge difference.
Maybe 5 years doesn’t seem like a big deal, but think about the maturity level. And the fact that the dude cant legally get into bars!
Where did you get 20 and 25? Did I miss that somewhere?
Anyway I have to say I’ve always worried about the widow part. I know that’s mean of me but I don’t want to spend like 20 years of my life alone because I met someone amazing and they were a lot older than me. But I suppose we can’t be picky with love…
I’m 22 and she’s 24.5, and compared to the ex who was only 2 months younger then me, I find that older girls aren’t such little babies about the little things, but I did learn one thing, all girls (young and older), love to get attention and be treated like they were the center of your world.
I was in one of those cases… Although she was 10yrs. older, her mind was still 17yo. And me being at mind & body somewhere in the middle; it didn’t work out well. So, I feel that the mental age aka maturity level is a strong factor in all of this. Also, for guys, it does help to like Cougars and have a maturity level higher than your age.
Mr. Matthews to you mame.
Re Star asking “Where did you get 20 and 25? Did I miss that somewhere?”
Well, since this is on the “college candy” site, there was probably an assumption that most women posting here will be somewhere between 18 and 25. Under point 4, Carly wrote “especially if you’re a lot older than the guy (say, five years or more)”. So Emily was questioning the implication that 5 years was a “lot older” for women in the typical college age range, especially grad school. (It might justifiably be considered so in high school, though.)
[I’m a 54 year old woman (not in college) who wandered in here via the link to the VP Debate drinking game from a general political blog, and saw this thread over in the Whats Hot column. It was of interest, since when I was 53 I dated a 35 year old man for a while.]
like to make 4ndship with woman whose r elder than me
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