You claim you don’t really have a type. But (seriously) how many blonde, guitar playing, puppy-eyed boys can you go through before realizing that you constantly fall into the same boyfriend traps?

Honey, let’s be honest; there’s only so much emotional turmoil a person can take before she loses it.

While most New Year’s resolutions never last through February, it is possible to change your ever-familiar ways now - for good. Forging through this set of relationship resolutions will help you be in control, not him:

1. Move on. Don’t give any guy too much meaning right away because you’re convinced you’ll become one of those cat ladies if you’re not dating right now. Guys are everywhere. After all, how many failed dates have you been on, and how many guys are around you at the bars? If you know this guy won’t work out, move on.

2. Expect more. Over the insane course of life, you’ve realized that most people are genuinely good — even your ex-boyfriends. Not all guys cheat and lie, but all will step right over you if you let them. Demand the right treatment, and you’ll get it. We’re talking common consideration, not daily calls and texts after the first date.

3. Be in Demand. Remember how you had all those hobbies back when boys still had cooties? Where did all your personal time go? If you’re spending it worrying about when he’ll call or what he’s up to, you’re wasting time and making your personality seem remarkably unattractive. Make plans and do your thing because it’s awesome if he calls but no loss if he doesn’t. You’re a busy girl, remember?

4. Quit Being Cool. You know how every time a guy does something wrong you say, “It’s okay,” when it’s not at all? Well, quit it! If he blew you off to hang out with the guys and that made you angry, tell him. Being unemotional may seem to work in the beginning, but you’re always compromising yourself by not saying how you feel. And if he doesn’t like you being emotional? Refer back to resolution #1: movin’ on!

5. Like yourself. When keeping a relationship up, don’t forget about who you are. As in, you play the guitar better than he can, and your cleavage looks far better in a shirt than his man boobs ever will. You’ve got to like yourself for you, not who he wants you to be (corniness not necessarily intended). If you know this current relationship is a surefire failure, don’t waste your time working too hard to make it work. Trust your instincts and trust yourself.