I get it. Guys like sex…and guys like competition. So naturally, guys make it a competition to see who has more sex. Whether it is a points game (extra points for threesomes or two girls in one night-obvi) or just listing off their sex stats. Guys go out in search of a hookup to add to their list.

And so, the number-game-guys seek out one of us girls to take home. And we ladies cast the fact aside that he is, admittedly a huge MW (Man-Whore), and strip right down to our Hanky-Panky’s. I mean, clearly if everyone else wanted him, there must be something appealing that we should want too. And naively we think we will be the one to change him and tame him. Right?

Soooo Wrong.

I had an epiphany when I was visiting a friend of mine who is a known champ of the number game. This guy likes to have a lot of sex- but then again, what guy doesn’t? When the number lands somewhere between fifty and two-hundred (I kid you not) there is a deeper rooted– please see a therapist– reason why these MW guys feel compelled to rack up their number of times in the sack.

Enter light bulb Moment: Intimacy issues. God I feel so Oprah/Dr. Phil for being able to diagnose this one.

It isn’t just that these MW’s are horny and sexual. There is a fear of becoming too close, of getting too attached, of having something that’s more than just physical. And then there is a fear of getting hurt. Maybe the real reason the MW in question won’t hookup with you more than once is because the one time he got emotionally close to a girl he got burned.

Whatever it is, there is a reason behind the number tally game of it all. Until the guy deals with his fear of intimacy, you need to realize you aren’t going to be the one who was able to say you changed his ways.