Comments on: How To Deal: The Girl Who Won’t Stop Talking About Her Boyfriend http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/5859 Wed, 3 Dec 2008 00:46:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1 By: Marie http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/5859#comment-78533 Marie Tue, 05 Aug 2008 05:03:45 +0000 http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/5859#comment-78533 I have the opposite point of view. For about a year and a half, I was the only one in my group of friends who had a bf. Not wanting to annoy them/hurt their feelings/nausate them, I very rarely mentioned him. However, I only found out that it made me feel like I was treating him without the respect he deserved...and turns out most of my friends didn't care at all if I talked about him. Surprisingly they asked about many of the good moments...even if some were cheesy. As my friends, they were just glad I was with someone who made me happy. And I can never be grateful enough to them for that. Except for one. I tried not to ever talk about him but she still always acted really jealous and made snide remarks regarding him and me and other couples even though I told her that it bothered me. When it came to the time where I was excited to spend my first valentines day with someone I really loved and loved me in return after some many years of getting my heart kicked around and all she did was tell me how valentines day was shit and for idiots, I realized our friendship was shakey. It sounds mean to say, but she was too bitter to be a good friend. If she wasn't content and in a perfect relationship, none of her friends could be. So to me, friendships and relationships go both ways. The girlfriend should be aware that sometimes her single friends doesn't need to hear every little naustating detail and sometimes the single friends should be glad that their friend is in a happy relationship. There are little compromises both sides can do to show they care about their friendship. I have the opposite point of view. For about a year and a half, I was the only one in my group of friends who had a bf. Not wanting to annoy them/hurt their feelings/nausate them, I very rarely mentioned him. However, I only found out that it made me feel like I was treating him without the respect he deserved…and turns out most of my friends didn’t care at all if I talked about him. Surprisingly they asked about many of the good moments…even if some were cheesy. As my friends, they were just glad I was with someone who made me happy. And I can never be grateful enough to them for that.

Except for one. I tried not to ever talk about him but she still always acted really jealous and made snide remarks regarding him and me and other couples even though I told her that it bothered me. When it came to the time where I was excited to spend my first valentines day with someone I really loved and loved me in return after some many years of getting my heart kicked around and all she did was tell me how valentines day was shit and for idiots, I realized our friendship was shakey. It sounds mean to say, but she was too bitter to be a good friend. If she wasn’t content and in a perfect relationship, none of her friends could be.

So to me, friendships and relationships go both ways. The girlfriend should be aware that sometimes her single friends doesn’t need to hear every little naustating detail and sometimes the single friends should be glad that their friend is in a happy relationship. There are little compromises both sides can do to show they care about their friendship.

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