But, it turns out to be a pretty big problem for most of the couples that both my wife & I know. There is an enormous disparity in the sexual desire between husbands and wives. And this disparity causes problems. And it appears to be (mostly) the same thing: the husbands are more interested than the wives. And not having an outlet for these biological desires has consequences that no one wants: temptation, flirtation and infidelity.

Don’t misunderstand: I’m not saying that there’s a 1:1 causal relationship here, nor am I saying that these consequences are justifiable. But there is an increased risk of those consequences that results from a difference in sexual desire. The closest analogy that I can come up with the need to use the restroom. When you have ready access to a restroom, you can quite easily keep up certain standards for what constitutes a fine restroom to use. But if you don’t have that access, biological demand starts playing with those standards. And if it goes on for too long, just about anything starts to look “good enough”.

Do I think that it’s a good idea to try and bridge what I’ll call “the libido gap” with drugs? I don’t know. But I do think it’s a good idea to try. Personally, if I could figure out something on my end to bridge the gap, I’d happily do it.