In a college whirlwind of saucy stories, sexcapades, and scandals I guess I’m just a little confused. Women’s viagra??? Is there actual demand for that?

Alright so I understand that after thirty years of marriage things might uh, burn out… especially if your once abs of steel husband has steadily grown to resemble the Pillsbury Doughboy. Fair enough. But do we really need more meds solving our everyday human nature problems?

Womenra (can anyone say pla-ce-bo?) is a drug awaiting approval from the Food and Drug Administration. The pill is said to boost female sex drive. Yeeeeeahhh…

Technically it just helps you reach arousal more successfully, which in turn is supposed to make you want to romp around in bed more often, a fair correlation to make, I’ll give them that.

I don’t know, I guess I’m just old fashioned… shouldn’t the whole physical attraction/love for your significant other/just wanting a good piece of A-S-S be enough?

Silly little pharmaceutical companies, tricks are for kids! And Viagra is for men. A more effective product would be a life size Mark Wahlberg, not that that’s on my Christmas list or anything…

Asexuality. Is it a real thing?

If so, what does it actually mean?

In an article by David Jay in American Sexuality Magazine, he explains what asexuality is, and how a person can have a satisfying relationship while identifying as an asexual individual. Jay should know—he’s speaking from first hand experience.

“One of the quirks of being asexual” Jay says, “is that classifying and prioritizing relationships becomes a mite tricky.” In his article, Jay explains how he sees himself as a bit of an ‘intimacy ho’.

Unlike some asexuals who prefer a solitary lifestyle, Jay admits to desiring relationships (sans the sex) from many, many different people.

Upon learning early on that a meaningful relationship had to include sex, Jay rebelled. There had to be a way, he thought, to feel what he wanted to feel without the socially inflicted constraints.

“It wasn’t long before my close friendships started to look and act like dating, and it wasn’t much longer until they broke away from that and started to become something else entirely” he writes.

“Relationships, I realized, can be fun, in much the same way that I imagine sex is fun for sexual folk. New types of pleasure started popping up all over, and it seemed like there would never be time to explore them all. They ran the gamut—from the intellectual to the physical, from the deeply empowering to the utterly frivolous.” Read More »

Asexuality. Is it a real thing? If so, what does it actually mean?

In an article by David Jay in American Sexuality Magazine, he explains what asexuality is, and how a person can have a satisfying relationship while identifying as an asexual individual. Jay should know—he’s speaking from first hand experience.

“One of the quirks of being asexual” Jay says, “is that classifying and prioritizing relationships becomes a mite tricky.” In his article, Jay explains how he sees himself as a bit of an ‘intimacy ho’. Unlike some asexuals who prefer a solitary lifestyle, Jay admits to desiring relationships (sans the sex) from many, many different people.

Upon learning early on that a meaningful relationship had to include sex, Jay rebelled. There had to be a way, he thought, to feel what he wanted to feel without the socially inflicted constraints.

“It wasn’t long before my close friendships started to look and act like dating, and it wasn’t much longer until they broke away from that and started to become something else entirely” he writes. “Relationships, I realized, can be fun, in much the same way that I imagine sex is fun for sexual folk. New types of pleasure started popping up all over, and it seemed like there would never be time to explore them all. They ran the gamut—from the intellectual to the physical, from the deeply empowering to the utterly frivolous.” Read More »