I decided to get out of town for the weekend. You know, head to the country where my cell phone doesn’t get service, my computer doesn’t get internet and my hair doesn’t get…clean.

And, obviously, on this particular weekend huge things happened in the world of pop culture and entertainment, which leave me with hundreds of emails and tons of voicemails upon my return. Note: hair extremely greasy.

Um. Dumbledore is gay!?

What? How on earth did I miss that? I mean, really; how the hell did I miss that?

I have read every single Harry Potter book…3 times.
I majored in English in college, meaning I learned the art of reading between the lines in all sorts of texts.
I am a total fag-hag and love (absolutely adore) gay men.

If anyone should have seen that one coming it would have been me.

I am not saying that I am some genius (though, if you would like to think of me as one I am more than happy to agree), but I am saying that I am always on the lookout for interesting sub-plots and the meaning behind everything an author writes. Especially when it involves fabulous and powerful gay men.

So, if JK had indeed intended Dumbledore to be gay from the beginning, I would have seen it. And I did not. There was no pink décor in Dumbledore’s office. There were no saucy memories of late nights in Hogsmeade’s most hoppin’ gay bars floating around the Penseive. There wasn’t even an inkling of interest between Dumbles (as I like to call him) and Cedric Diggory, and how could any gay man not fall for that boy’s eyes, not to mention his skills on the Quiddich pitch? Read More »

I mean, who hasn’t it happened to?

You find a guy who’s awesome in every way. He’s sensitive, looks at you when you talk, rubs your back after a hard day, and thinks you’re beautiful. Sure, he’s a tiny bit feminine, and you’ve heard rumors around campus about the possibility of him being bi-sexual, but that sort of thing doesn’t faze cool, confident you. It’s nice being around someone who’s in touch with their sensitive side! It’s interesting to be seeing someone who might be bi-sexual (“hey, that guy’s cute!” “You’re right, he is! Another way we think alike!”), and for the first time in your life, you might actually have found a dude who isn’t afraid to iron his shirts.

Which is why it sucks real bad when you find out he’s gay.

The first time a girl falls for or accidentally dates a gay dude, she’s bound to be thwarted by all types of insecurities. Not only has she been left behind by someone she liked, but she’s got to deal with the fact that she was dating someone who may have never had romantic feelings in the first place.

Anyone who’s walked across campus as That Girl Who Dated Him Before He Was Gay knows how confusing the situation can be, and as someone who had her own college experience and now finds herself surrounded by gay men who admit to having relationships with girls in college, it seems only right to divulge some advice that might help others who have mistakenly fallen for Mr. Seriously (No, Seriously) Unattainable.

First thing’s first, It’s Not About You. It really isn’t. If someone’s gay, they’ve always been gay, and have spent a lifetime trying to deal with it. It takes a lot of courage to finally come out, and if they do it during or after your relationship, it’s not because there was something you did wrong. Read More »