When someone tells me they’re gay, I don’t doubt it’s something they’ve always been. Knowing enough people who tell their coming-out stories with pain in their eyes, or recall their childhood with a mixture of sadness and confusion, I am convinced, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that homosexuality is not a choice. It’s something you’re born into. Something you are.

Alan Chambers doesn’t agree with me.

Chambers is the president of Exodus International, “an umbrella organization that oversees hundreds of conservative Christian-based ministries all over world” which support the ex-gay movement. You heard right. Rehabilitation centers and programs are popping up all over the globe to help men and women become “un-gay”. Read More »

I’ll be the first to admit that I did some messed up shit to my frenemies during my younger years. One time in middle school, my friends and I poured Snapple and mashed strawberries in a girl’s backpack because we were fighting for absolutely no reason.

Seeing as our military isn’t in middle school (though they are in a similar predicament: fighting for absolutely no reason), I’d expect a little more tact from them. But apparently the U.S. military has come down with the mean girls-syndrome that I suffered circa the strawberry incident.

No, they didn’t mash strawberries in the backpacks of Iraqi extremists. But they did do some very Regina George-esque plotting to create a gay bomb to use against enemy soldiers. A gay bomb. Seriously.

A watchdog organization that tracks military spending exposed the U.S. military’s plan to build a bomb that could turn opposing soldiers gay—consequently shifting their focus from fighting to sex, CBS reported.

The watchdog group found that “the Ohio Air Force lab proposed that a bomb be developed that contained a chemical that would cause enemy soldiers to become gay, and to have their units break down because all their soldiers became irresistibly attractive to one another.” Read More »

I mean, who hasn’t it happened to?

You find a guy who’s awesome in every way. He’s sensitive, looks at you when you talk, rubs your back after a hard day, and thinks you’re beautiful. Sure, he’s a tiny bit feminine, and you’ve heard rumors around campus about the possibility of him being bi-sexual, but that sort of thing doesn’t faze cool, confident you. It’s nice being around someone who’s in touch with their sensitive side! It’s interesting to be seeing someone who might be bi-sexual (“hey, that guy’s cute!” “You’re right, he is! Another way we think alike!”), and for the first time in your life, you might actually have found a dude who isn’t afraid to iron his shirts.

Which is why it sucks real bad when you find out he’s gay.

The first time a girl falls for or accidentally dates a gay dude, she’s bound to be thwarted by all types of insecurities. Not only has she been left behind by someone she liked, but she’s got to deal with the fact that she was dating someone who may have never had romantic feelings in the first place.

Anyone who’s walked across campus as That Girl Who Dated Him Before He Was Gay knows how confusing the situation can be, and as someone who had her own college experience and now finds herself surrounded by gay men who admit to having relationships with girls in college, it seems only right to divulge some advice that might help others who have mistakenly fallen for Mr. Seriously (No, Seriously) Unattainable.

First thing’s first, It’s Not About You. It really isn’t. If someone’s gay, they’ve always been gay, and have spent a lifetime trying to deal with it. It takes a lot of courage to finally come out, and if they do it during or after your relationship, it’s not because there was something you did wrong. Read More »

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