Dear Tuffy Luv,

Hey tuffy! I send this to Ryan, but i’m not sure on what’s his status whether he still gives advice or not, so just to be sure since this is driving me nuts i’ll send it to you!

Here’s my prob!

There’s this guy i initially met during training at work who instantly I knew was attracted to me by the little things he did (constantly looking, his friends trying to bring up his name in a conversation/leaving us when we’re together..blah blah blah). After a month or so, the feelings became mutual and our occasional waves when we saw each other turned into him walking me to my car after work, us exchanging numbers (which resulted into convos that lasted in the the early AM), sitting together at breaks, and texting non-stop as well as him telling me personal things about himself.

It’s to the point where everyone think’s we’re together. I kept wondering why he hadn’t asked me out yet, and then finally had to ask the question if he had a girlfriend. With my luck, the answer was ‘Yes’. I found it incredibly odd because he would never mention her, even after he gave me my answer it was almost like she was invisible. Instantly I said to myself I would only keep our conversations at a friendly level, thinking it would get easier since I switched shifts and would not see him as often. I even went as far to tell him that I would not be calling him because I found it disrespectful to call another woman’s boyfriend. Read More »

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Dear Tuffy Luv,

Hi!
Okay, here’s my question: This year is the first election for president that I can vote in. My parents support McCain but I dont think I agree. How can I decide who to vote for? Sorry if this is a stupid question!

– Confused Voter

Dear Confused Voter,

First of all, can I please just congratulate you on making an effort to be an informed voter? Yeah? Thanks. Congratulations!

So many people (sadly, often including lil’ ol’ Tuffs) just vote based on party without bothering to research the stuff that’s actually important to them (education, reproductive rights, etc.).

And before supes left-wing Tuffy goes on, I just wanna give a little shout out to Senator John McCain, who was totally freaking adorable on SNL this week. SO adorable.

That said, honey, the only way to really know what’s going on is to read the news. A lot of it. From all different sources. Read More »

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Dear Tuffy Luv,

By reading your entries on CC, I saw that you studied abroad! I’m a few weeks away from the end of my semester abroad (London, to be exact). I have had a blast spending the last few months travelling around Europe, being surrounded by cute british accents, fabulous shopping and all wonderful things European.

I’m really excited to go back home and reunite with friends, family, etc, but I’ve heard a lot about “reverse culture shock” and that sometimes it can be a mess going home after being away for so long. Any advice on what to do when I get home? Would it be easier to jump right into home life again, maybe take a few days of solitude to sort my life out again? Ugh, how bittersweet to be leaving.

Love,
a fellow study abroad-er

Dear Study Abroad-er,

Definitely give yourself a few days off.

It’s so freaking hard to readjust to your old life after getting back from a great adventure. You figure you’ll just be like, hey, I’m home, cool! But for some reason, your body is like, where’s the food I’ve been eating for the last five months? Where are the superintense new friends? Read More »

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Dear Tuffy Luv,

I recently ran into a boy i used to (and still) have a crush on, but don’t know too well. We had a really great, long, kind of flirty conversation but he eventually revealed that he’s had the same girlfriend since high school.

When the topic of relationships came up, he started talking about a serious problem he has with his girlfriend. It seemed odd, considering we aren’t really close and I don’t even know her… then he gave me his number and told me to call him if I was around this summer.

Granted, I am pretty easy to talk to, but does the fact that he brought up his relationship problems to me mean something? Or is he just so secure with the relationship that it feels comfortable to talk about it to whoever? Maybe he’s the kind of guy who stays in a relationship because it feels safe, and needs another girl to get him out of it? I’m confused!

thanks,
anna

Dear Anna,

Run from this douchebag as fast as your cute little legs will take you. Read More »

Dear Tuffy Luv:

I’m trying to decide if I am suffering from “Dumper’s Remorse or if I have truly made a mistake. This SHOULD be obvious, but for many reasons, it isn’’t. Allow me to elaborate:

After 3 years of dating, I broke up with my last boyfriend about 3 months ago (in January). We had been together for a long time, but I’’d been having doubts for at least six months and possibly more, depending on which friend you ask. We were each other’s first real relationship, and as we got more and more permanently serious I got more and more nervous about that. I loved him, and he loved me, but our relationship finally got so shaky that I felt it was time to let go. Read More »